Here we go, don’t hate me.
A common argument against the feminism movement is that most feminists and social justice warrior women are unattractive — they complain simply because they don’t get the same doting and privilege as prettier women, when it comes down to it that is the root of most of their problems, and that is what they are upset about. I agree.
Somewhat. We know that pretty privilege exists, it has been proven that attractive women make more money and receive better treatment. Studies show that attractive people overall tend to be happier (https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/how-much-is-being-attractive-worth-80414787/). Happy people, I would logically deduce don’t complain as much nor have as many grips thus are less likely to be on the front lines of any movement ranting and marching (https://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6). This does not mean that they do not suffer discrimination, its just that they may be less inclined to protest about it with the same zest and vigor as today’s average feminist or SJW.
In many ways it is true, unattractive women are usually feminists, but I would argue that while they are the most bothered by the effects of misogyny because they get the short end of the stick, this is no different than any other movement. For example; racism, Black people predominantly lament about racism because its effects influences their reality the most. Immigration; primarily immigrants or their families who receive the upshot of the policies are likely to be the ones voicing their gripes the most. LGBTQ; people who are a part of that community usually are the biggest advocates for the group. It seems like a no-brainer that the people most effected by a particular injustice or issue would speak out against it the most. Sometimes the hurt folk have to do the screaming. Zora Neale Hurston said, “if you’re silent about your pain they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.”
I’m not a feminist, I don’t like the connotation that comes with the label, not to mention feminism largely excludes Black women which is obviously a conflict of interest for me. However, I do understand the woes that come with patriarchy and I do want to add that I am aware pretty women have their own problems with patriarchy in regards to not being taken as seriously or being seen as less than smart, they have a fine line to balance, (https://money.cnn.com/2017/09/20/pf/women-attractiveness-work/index.html). This article isn’t all encompassing of that, it is solely to address the “attractive argument” commonly used to invalidate the opinions of feminists.
I don’t think feminists are arguing that they are the prettiest or most coveted or the most liked, but mostly that they would like access to a equitable life in spite of those things. Ultimately, you don’t have to want to screw them, but you should still have to respect them.
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